Dear Abby: My son-in-law is keeping me from my grandchildren over a fight

Dear ABBY: My son-in-law and I had a conversation five years ago. Two years ago, I wrote him a letter of apology and told him that he was always “family first.” My daughter confirmed that she received the letter.

They recently had their fourth child. We haven’t seen their first since he was 2 or their second since she was born, and we’ve only seen their third once. I don’t know how to fix this situation. My daughter and I only talk when her husband is not around. She is a police officer and I don’t want to cause her any stress that could affect her work. He has blocked me on social networks as well as my phone calls. What can I do? — IN ALBANIA THE MOTHER-IN-LAW IN THE EAST

DEAR SORRY: This must have been an argument you had with your son-in-law. What took you three years to apologize for? If he wants nothing to do with you anymore, no one can force him, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t see the kids when he’s not around. If you haven’t suggested this to your daughter, try it.

Dear ABBY: I am a 37 year old woman with a very supportive husband. I love it so much, but I have some concerns. We have no children even though we have been trying for years. Then I found out I have PCOS (polycystic ovary syndrome). I may still have a baby, but now, due to age, a bad back and knee, I’ve kind of given up. My husband and I are overweight, although I am trying to lose weight. It is difficult. I also suffer from depression. Am I doing the right thing by giving up and putting myself first? – FIGHTING IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR WARRIOR: It is important to put yourself first. Before you decide whether to bring a child into this world, you need to get back into shape physically and emotionally. Once this is done, you will be in a better position to decide if you are equal to the responsibilities of motherhood.

Dear ABBY: I have known “Mona” for 25 years and I thought we were friends. She bought some patio furniture from me but still owes me $100. When I tried to contact him about that, she blocked me. I wanted to post it on Facebook without telling him his name, but I’m taking the high road.

We never had any arguments and I don’t understand her behavior. Mona is the one who always says “I love you” and “I’m praying for you” and then withdraws it? She has lied to me in the past but I never called her out because it didn’t matter to me. What are your thoughts? – POINT OF RETURN IN MICHIGAN

DEAR TURNING POINT: When you first realized that Mona was lying to you, you MUST you called him and revised your opinion of him. Mona seems to be not only a hypocrite, but also a user. Be glad the lesson you learned only cost you $100 because it could have cost you more. As for my thoughts, I think you should stay away from Mona and find friends who understand that friendship is mutual.

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